Several people contact me about their spiritually gifted children, so I wanted to put together a resource for parents and caregivers. Your child may have started showing signs of being spiritually gifted at an early age: looking over your shoulder, smiling at someone that's seemingly not there, hearing them having conversations when no one else is in the room, or knowing exactly how you are feeling when you have yet to share those feelings. The spiritually gifted children also show signs of deep compassion very early. Listen to the recent Wise Skies podcast where I was interviewed about supporting spiritually gifted children.
Below are the top three questions I get asked about how to support a spiritually gifted child.
Number 1: My child is seeing Spirit people in their room at night, and is scared, what do I do?
The first thing you want to do is acknowledge it. The worst thing you could do is to discount their fear and dismiss it as not real. Comfort your child and let them know that they will not hurt them, that they are there to just say “hi” and they won't stay long. This will comfort them most of the time, or at least enough to go back to sleep that first night.
The next day I want you to ask questions like these:
- Tell me about your experience last night?
- Was it a man or a woman?
- What did they look like?
- What did they say ?
- Did they give you a Feeling?
- Were they trying to scare you, or were you just scared because you didn't know them?
- When they were looking at you, were they smiling?
- Did you know who it was?
- Did you recognize them from any pictures we have?
By asking these questions you are demonstrating calmness and bringing your child comfort because you believe in their experience. You will need to reassure them that the spirit person will not hurt them, and that it's okay for your child to let the spirit know that it upsets them when they come to visit. You could let your child know that it’s ok to simply tell the spirit person to please go away and not visit anymore.
Spirit people want to be seen and acknowledged, it is not their intention to scare anyone, this is just a process of coming and visiting a loved one, or to visit a child with mediumistic abilities.
Number 2: My child has an imaginary friend, is that okay? How do I handle that?
By asking questions and narrowing down, you can find out if this is just a child who is wanting a friend to be with her to have a tea party, or is this a spirit who enjoys being with your child?
I would like you to ask questions:
- What is your friend's name?
- How old are they?
- What do their clothes look like? This can give you an idea of a time period If your child is being visited.
- What do they say to you?
- Are they friendly?
- Have you ever met them before?
- Where do they live?
Get as much information as you can, then ask your child if they like being friends with them. Let your child make the decision on their own. IF this is a spirit and your child is okay with them in their life then it is good for your child to build trust in the spirit world, because as they get older they will be more in tune with their mediumistic side and know they don't have to be afraid or doubt that they have the ability to connect with spirit. If your child does not want to continue the friendship, then you will direct your child to be nice but firm in telling the friend they do not want them to visit anymore.
Number 3: I think my child is empathic, and is quite emotional a majority of the time. How can I understand and help them through this?
We are taught our feelings and emotions are our own, so of course it's natural for a child to assume everything they are feeling and knowing has to do with them. As they get older, they start realizing one minute they are happy, the next they feel sadness when they are around Mommy. Maybe Mommy is sad because someone she cares about just passed away and does not want to upset her child, so she says everything is great and smiles, although this works perfect with the less sensitive child, this absolutely does not work for an empathic child. This will confuse a sensitive child because what they are seeing with their eyes, and what they are intuitively picking up, or are feeling, are two different things. This will have them questioning their intuition and sanity. As the child progresses into teenage years their emotions are already tricky to navigate. These added emotions are powerful and they will feel like they should be sad even when they have nothing to be sad about. This can become very confusing for the child.
For a gifted child you will need to find a way to be honest. If it's in their best interest not to tell them why you're sad or angry, find a way to at least acknowledge your feelings so that your child knows that they were accurate in their assessment. This allows the child to trust their intuition as well as builds the trust in you as the parent. Your child will learn that what you say and feel are truthful. If you do not give an empathic child this courtesy they will grow up knowing you are telling them what you want them to hear, and not how you truly feel. This honest approach to parenting will help your child be able to distinguish the difference between someone who is telling the truth and someone who is not.
Giving your child the ability to trust in their intuition is the best gift you could give them, as it will help them through many challenges in their life.
If you'd like more assistance with your spiritually gifted child, you can book a spiritual guidance session with me here.